I am here today to talk about personal style. Now, this is something I’ve struggled with a lot over recent years – I feel this has mostly been down to some issues I’ve had regarding weight gain. But I also think spending a large amount of time on social media doesn’t help, you’re constantly bombarded with images of incredibly stylish bloggers who look incredible meanwhile, you’re sat on your sofa at 11.30 on a Friday morning with unwashed hair, wearing Pokemon pyjamas that you probably should have ironed.
Back when I first dyed my hair bright ginger I had issues with what colours to wear with my new vibrant locks. I wrote in a previous post about how I was going to let my hair do the talking and stick to wearing white, black and grey. HA! That didn’t last long.
Coat: Lotd*| Dungarees: Primark (similar) | T-Shirt: New Look | Boots: Vagabond (similar) | Necklace: Just Daydreaming
I think at the time I felt that was how I was supposed to dress, as minimal fashion was becoming quite popular and I felt this would solve my problem with my wardrobe being full of clothing that didn’t go together. My only problem with this plan was I was bored to death with my wardrobe. I’d spent hours on Pinterest looking up capsule wardrobes and minimal fashion and finding your personal style. I still do like the idea of a capsule wardrobe but they’re always so dull. Every info-graphic I came upon talked about wardrobe must-haves such as a crisp white shirt, a black blazer, etc. Which is all fine and well if that’s what you enjoy wearing, but as somebody who doesn’t work in an office and spends 70% of my time in pyjamas this just didn’t fit with my personal style.
This minimal neutral wardrobe lasted for around 3-4 months before I was bored out of my mind. I was kidding myself to think I could stick with a neutral colour scheme. I loved colour and patterns and prints, I just struggled to find the confidence to style them with my hair. Overall I felt my personal style had gotten a little lost and I didn’t know who I was anymore.
I think I finally began feeling more ‘me’ again sometime last year. I’d started Slimming World and had begun to lose weight, I’m not saying you need to be slim to have good personal style, but for me, this was a big part of my loss in confidence. I also found the more often I shot fashion and personal style content the more confident I became. I’d often thought I wasn’t ‘cool’ enough to do fashion content, that people wouldn’t be interested in my black skinny jeans from Primark and my charity shop jumper. But the more fashion content I began featuring both on here and on my Instagram the more feedback I go, and I suddenly started thinking maybe I am cooler than I thought. Sometimes just forcing yourself out of your comfort zone can really help in improving your confidence.
Another thing I found really useful was the book Curated Closet by Anuschka Rees. This taught me the importance of dressing for the life you have not the life you want. Throughout the book, there are a number of different ‘tasks’ to follow, such as creating mood boards of outfits you like and finding common themes. But the one I found most useful was looking at your life and figuring out the percentage of your life and what that involves.
For me I spend the majority of my time at work or at home, I realised that my life calls for pretty casual clothing. At work I’m often lugging around big bags of stock and can often get a little scruffy, I regularly have to climb up ladders so skirts and dresses are a no go. I need to be able to bend down and reach up to shelves, so a basic jeans and jumper work fine for me. I don’t go to fancy occasions very often so I rarely wear fancy dresses and heels, as much as I might like them they just don’t fit in my wardrobe.
Once I figured out that smart casual clothing was my jam I started researching more into particular brands that stock clothing I like and made myself a list. From one of the previous tasks in the book I knew I loved stripes, pops of pink, colourful trousers, coats and ankle boots. So from here, I used Pinterest, fashion blogs and Instagram to find brands that the style of clothing I loved. Some of my favourites being Monki, The White Pepper (Rest in Peace), Joanie clothing, Sugarhill Boutique, LOTD, and ASOS.
Other fashion bloggers and Instagrammers really helped with this – especially with Instagram’s new feature where you can save images. Some of my biggest inspirations over the past year or so have been Amy, Sheri, Pip, Zoe, and Anna they have amazing ways with colour and I love the things they wear.
These little steps slowly and surely helped and I’m not in a position where I’m pretty comfortable with my personal style. Sometimes you do have to experiment a little to discover what works for you and what doesn’t – but isn’t that what style is all about? I like to have fun with my wardrobe and I like my style to be an extension of my personality. Life is too short to be stuck wearing ‘boring’ clothes that you don’t like.
I’d love to know who your biggest style inspirations are? Have you gotten your personal style down, share your tips below! I love hearing about everybody else’s wardrobes.